Were The Beatles Wrong?


I was finishing up with a restorative class recently, when I had a flashback to my first healing circle. The year was 1988, I had heard about these “classes” had a conversation with the woman that led them, she told me “nothing is going on right now”.I waited a year to get into a class, timing… I was curious, I had done some work with crystals, affirmations; however, found myself still-hungry for knowledge. I traveled to Thomaston, with a friend. We arrived at a beautiful farm house, High Visions. Everyone formed a circle; there were feathers, rocks, crystals, chimes, sage, and candles. readily available. One by one people entered the circle and the “senders” swarmed around humming, waving. crystals, laying on hands, I thought, “what is going on here, what do I do, what am I supposed to do?” I figured it would not hurt to put my hand on the person and send “love”, and it didn’t, however, I would do things very differently today..”all you need is love” does not resonate with me, any more.
I sing all you need is neutral. My understanding of my life has changed, I think about Dr Randolph Stone’s Polarity model, everything has a positive charge negative and neutral charge, Dr Edward Bach offers similar thoughts, the flowers flood the negative with positive emotions to gently bring us back to balance, neutral. The now, the present, just observing, noticing. being aware. To me, everything is included in our life experience, we flow with life when we let go, stop judging, and come to stillness. To me now even love has a flip side. I chose detachment, possibilities,acceptance, center,neutral. I chose Peace. Your choice?



Ugh, Resistance
I am well aware of the fact that you have not heard from me, here, in over two months. I have found every excuse to not sit down and write. I have too much going on, I have nothing to say, I hate writing, I’m not a good writer… I now have a name to this inner mind chatter, it is, Resistance. I am facing it.
Resistance, my “lizard brain” found a way to keep me safe, “if I don’t write at all, no one can criticize” My own little insecurities, rising up for me to observe, again. Like cleaning the house, you have to do it again and again and again…I, too, am still working through layers, just like everybody else. I use many tools; however the bottom line is things are always changing, things are always coming up. If we intend to live creatively and at peace, we need to part the clouds to find our “Self”.We need to turn off our auto pilot and examine our faulty belief systems, observe our behaviors, make changes, take action, course correct Breathe some life into our Life…move past our “edge”.
I want to flow with life not against it; so, I made a move, sat down and. I did what my dear friend, Tema, told me to do, “Show up, say yes, and Trust”
“Energy cannot be created or destroyed; it can only be changed from one form to another”.
Albert Einstein

Rid yourself of overwhelm with these 3 tips

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I, like many of you, have lots of interests, lots going on, lots to do. I sometimes say yes, to, too many things,then wonder, “why did I agree to this?” Life in the information age can be fascinating, or some days just too much. Sometimes even the strongest of us feel,well, overwhelmed. Merriam -Webster dictionary states the word, overwhelm, is currently in the top 20% of their look-ups The simple definition, “to have too many things to deal with.”
I guess I’m not the only one feeling it…
I know there is always a choice, chaos or calm, I don’t have to be seduced by every thought that pops into my head, I don’t have to say yes to everything, right now, I should use the “let me get back to you” phrase… and yet, I often hear “I’ll be right there” coming out of my mouth. I do not want to add guilt into the mix, “shoulding” on myself, does not help…
How does one pull back, sort out, balance? Try breathing, body relaxation, and Bach.

1   Take a breath, and then another, close your eyes, keep going, just give yourself space to watch your breath, as it is, without trying to control, count, or change it, the breath will shift, you will begin to relax.
2   Get into Child’s pose, move to the floor, and lower your buttocks to your heels, your head toward the floor, use blankets under knees or buttocks if needed for support and comfort. Place your arms, by your side, over your head on the floor, or stack your fists and rest your forehead on them. Breathe.

3   Try a Bach Flower Remedy. The Remedies help us quickly, naturally, and gently come into balance. There are subtle differences between many of the remedies for overwhelm, so ask yourself some questions to narrow down your choices, or consult with a Bach Foundation Registered Practitioner. Elm is the choice if you generally can handle many things and are just feeling a temporary loss of confidence for the task ahead. Hornbeam will be helpful if you are mentally weary, just the thought of all you need to accomplish may cause you to procrastinate. Centuary is for those who find it hard to say “no”, and often allow others to impose upon them, in balance; one would pay attention to their own needs, first.

Use these resources, then take it, one thing at a time.

Why am I Fired Up?

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I love Summer, I love the heat and humidity, long days, everything about this season makes me feel alive. I know you have all heard me gush over my favorite month, July. The past couple of weeks I have been wondering what is going on? I’m just not feeling it; I’m hitting walls, experiencing frustration, less tolerant in my relationships, arguing with what is… What the heck?
What the heck, indeed, anyone who knows me, knows I am all about what is going on with my energy. It did not take long for me to realize, my Vata/ Pitta nature has been magnified by the Pitta season. Meaning the naturally hot season combined with my airy, fiery constitution had increased my own internal fire, big time, I was becoming a walking 2 alarm! It could easily have gone to 3, so, I am grateful my yoga practice for holding me back.

In the Ayurvedic system of healing and balance there are 3 basic body types, Doshas ,or constitutions, a simple description: Vata (Air and Ether), a thinner build, Pitta (Fire and Water), more athletic, and Kapha (Earth and Water), stout. This system also divides the seasons into Vata, Fall and early Winter, Pitta, Summer,and Kapha, late Winter and early Spring. Most of us are predominately one type with less of the others. Working with our Dosha or constitution and seasonal energy can be interesting. We want to work with what is rather than resist, we need to work with seasonal energies to find our balance. The primary function of Pitta energy is transformation.

Luckily there are many ways to bring ourselves quickly back into balance, to transform energy. Today I am offering a few Bach Remedy choices for common Summer woes. There are 38 Bach Flower Remedies; they can be used both in the moment and for deeper issues. The Remedies work on moods or feelings, so, when making a choice, always look at what you are feeling, now.

Rock Water can be helpful for those who simply have trouble going with the flow, perhaps you find it difficult to break away from your work routine and simply relax on vacation? Tired of a house full of guests, the first few days were fun, however, when are they leaving? Beech can help us be more tolerant of others. Not looking forward to a weekend drive on I-95, slow traffic, too many “bad” drivers, and delays? Impatiens, can restore patience, helping you to calmly cope, you’ll get there. Mimulus, if you are fearful of thunder and lightning, getting stung by a bee, or even sunburn. Mimulus helps us to face our known fears, rationally; you really don’t want to hide inside, do you?

I invite you to take a look at your energetic body, see what’s going on, how are you handling the Summer,Pitta ? I intend to transform my Fire so I can enjoy my favorite month.

Are You Looking for Trouble?

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My dog Daisy has her quirky ways and her little routines. Rituals to keep things running smoothly in her world, through the years she has trained me to follow her cues. Upon waking, we have some adoring time, that means I get to kiss her on both sides of the face, then one kiss on top and she heads right to the treat jar, out pops the tongue, and she waits, waits until I give her the treat, then we repeat, and repeat again, until I say “no more”. Time to change tactics, she takes a walk around the room, looking for just the right item, sock, shoe, napkin, to run with, until ( I am well trained) she has my full attention, again, and I “make the trade” , giving her another treat, as she drops the item. You get the picture, she starts her day, “looking for trouble”. This is her “story”
Many of us start our days the same way… I recently worked on a client with sciatica. She was on the table, the pain subsided, she was happy, then she sat up, hmmmm, there it is, I continued to work the area, again, she felt good, but, wait, there it is… this went on. I realized, she would probably always have this pain, she identified with it, the pain had become “her story”, she may not have been ready/willing to let it go… Do you have an area in your life that you hang on to? Do you go “looking for trouble” My question is, can you do without it?

“Who would you be without your story?” Byron Katie

Here is a Quick Way to Slow Down


I recently had an experience that left me wondering if any of us are truly in our bodies in the moment paying attention to our life. I received an email, the writer had forgotten what was agreed upon in the previous email, the excuse? “I’m soooooo busy.” I sighed to myself, I, too, have been there, up at 5:00 am, multitasking, pushing through to get “stuff” done, rushing and racing. I no longer find this a fun or satisfying way to live, this is no longer validates my “worth”. I wonder how many people are living distracted, rushed, fractured lives, why is it so hard to “stop and smell the roses?”
A quick way to slow down may sound like an oxymoron, however, I assure these tips will move you out of fight or flight into a parasympathetic state, you will be surprised how easily you can get things done.
Do Less, Learn to prioritize,
Disconnect, spend 10 to 15 minutes upon waking, and enjoy the quiet before you reach for your phone.
Single task, do you really think you can do more than1 or 2 things at once well?
Use this simple formula, 1, Stop, 2, Notice your breath,inhale, expand your belly first, then the ribs, finally the chest, take a long exhale, 3, Ground, plant your feet under you, look for the four corners of each foot, stand or sit taller, feel the crown of your head centered over your spine,look for your center, 4, Feel, notice what/where you may be “holding” in your body, 5, Observe, try not to judge or engage.

“There is more to life than increasing its speed” Ghandi

Do I like Onions?


My sister recently pointed out something to me. Since I was a child, I have had distaste for onions, I have spent many, many years eating around them or picking them out of my dinner and pushing them to the side of the plate. She asked me, “how do you know you still don’t like them, have you tried them lately?”  It was kind of an eye opener about being stuck, hanging on, and defending my perceptions. I don’t know. I am sure the only way I will know is to try an onion and see what I think. Is there something going on for you now, a belief you are strongly defending?  How do you know if it’s true or you are just reinforcing a habit, clinging to an old pattern that may not serve you today?

I leave you with this quote…

“A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”
Byron Katie,